GfC

GfC by Albert Hammond, Jr.



This song just came out like two weeks ago, I like it, but I have nothing else to say about it, but...

The other day a few friends and I were hanging out. Sitting on a porch, enjoying a perfect night, drinking some beers, talking about whatever it is we talk about (music, movies, and policy). Anyway, some how we started talking about a guy that we all know. I casually mentioned how he had hooked up with a few girls (again, we knew all these girls). This guy had dated someone about a year ago, and a friend of the ex was there with us. Who knows if she knew about the hook ups, but she asked some further questions about it. Nothing big, just more confirming what everyone already knew.

Here's the thing though: no one would have said anything about this guy if his ex was there with us. But his ex obviously wanted and wants to know what he's been doing.

I only point this out because it's true with pretty much everyone I know. After we break up with someone, we want to know what that person is doing. Only no one will ever tell us what that person is doing. We have to go out on our own find out and then ask others if what we think happened happened. It's as if our friends are scared to tell us what they know about our exes... even though we're obsessed with knowing what our exes are doing.

Now, when this occurs, are our friends protecting us? By not saying anything to us, are they protecting us or are they doing us a disservice? If we ask for an update—why is it then okay to tell? And by asking for an update on an ex, we feel like we're obsessed nut jobs who appear to be unable to get over an ex. So we don't ask. No one wants to tell us what they know out of fear of... Lord knows. And we don't want to ask because we don't want to come across as obsessed "I can't get over her" whack jobs.

Forget about the Prisoners Dilemma—someone figure out the Ex Dilemma.